Come Together

When crises hit, families tend to come together like never before. While we go through the turmoil of the declining health of our loved one, we try to find the positive things to grab onto. I find the simple coming together of our family to be one of those, as I am sure do all of my family.

Helping one another to cope, emotionally and physically, we all are looking out for one another.

Regardless of the depth of the challenges you have faced, you must have experienced something like this to some degree. You come to realize just how many people’s lives you touch, and who you can really count on. Your family sometimes expands to include non-blood relations, but friends who care as deeply, possibly sometimes even more so.

We are so fortunate to have a family who has overcome great obstacles and can pull together without hesitation. It also brings us such relief to know that the community immediately surrounding my family geographically can and will step in when we are unable. Yet, we also know that the ones who can provide the greatest comfort are without doubt none other than ourselves.

I have learned through previous situations of crisis that I must be proactive and plan how I can deal with these challenges with the least long term impact on my own health. Ultimately, my health effecting my ability to function and care for my family on a day to day basis. It becomes necessary to look at the demands and determine which ones cannot or will not be lessened, whether or not it be by choice. Where there is room, changes must be made, including making self care an even greater priority.

This certainly is easier when a practise of self care is already integral to your daily routine.

What does this look like for you?

For me, I have had to choose what commitments I need to cut back on, then make the time to include activities that have been falling to the wayside. I am including Moksha Yoga in my regular weekly practise, starting every 3-4 days, and will gradually increase as my body adjusts (fibromyalgia changes things from what I once would have done). In between, I will include other fitness programs that are also low intensity (i.e. going to check out Goodlife‘s Bodyflow class in the next two days), walking, and hopefully swimming and cycling.

I also need an emotional outlet: this blog, my scrapbooks, my photography, and other creative outlets will hopefully allow my mind a better flow of functioning.

So far, I feel like I am managing alright. My pain is worse, but that’s to be expected. Hopefully a regular routine of self care will start to bring about some improvements, or at the very least prevent further escalation.

I find it helpful to share with others when making life changes. Are you on a similar path to find balance?

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How do you handle the waiting?

Waiting.

Playing the waiting game.

Limbo.

Not knowing what comes next.

But knowing that whatever it is, it’s going to be hard.

People handle waiting in very different ways. For some the not knowing means focusing on the worst case scenario. It means thinking over, and over and over: “________ just can’t happen.” “I can’t lose my job.” “This cannot be true.” “He cannot die.”

For others, not knowing allows for the greatest amount of optimism. The optimist can believe wholeheartedly it is going to get better. That when the news comes it is going to provide an opportunity. That anything is possible. “Maybe, I’ll be one of the lucky ones.” “Maybe I am in the small fraction who will get better!” “With news will come the ability to make him more comfortable.”

I see my loved ones falling on different sides of the line.

In some cases they are at complete opposite extremes. Perhaps they balance each other out. The contrast helping the other accept the reality of the yet unknown truth.

I’m not sure where I fall. I tend to be a realist. However, I also believe in the power of positive thinking. I like to prepare myself for the worst, while hoping for the best.

How do you handle waiting for significant news? Especially if you don’t know when it’s coming?

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Halifax Movember Launch Invitation

It is true. Nothing. Prepares you for hearing the words.

It is true. Nothing. Prepares you for hearing the words.

It is Cancer.”

Even after 2 diagnoses that just didn’t make sense, and wondering silently, could it be…? Still, nothing prepares you.

If you’ve been through it, then you know.

My loved one has recently learned of a diagnosis of liver cancer.

Third most common throughout the world among cancers, but uncommon in North America. Something under 2% of cancers in Canada are liver cancer. Liver cancer is not even listed among the types of cancers on the Cancer Care or Facing Cancer Together webpages. I am reading however that liver cancer is on the rise in our part of the world, likely due to increased prevalence of obesity, diabetes and hepatitis C. Canadian Cancer Society estimates 1950 cases will be diagnosed in Canada in 2011 out of an estimated 177800 new diagnoses of cancer in general.

For about two months regular tests for liver numbers kept rising. Then the pain suddenly began to dramatically increase and spread. What there was no sign of two months earlier had taken root throughout the entire liver. That fast. Cancer.

After being admitted in order to get some control over the pain, and expedite the biopsy being completed, finally they took samples of the liver. We are now told it can take anywhere from 1 week upwards to a month to get the results! Treatment will not begin without those results. At the rate the cancer has been spreading, this hardly seems fathomable. How much might things have changed in the meantime?

I was away on a conference when the news was delivered. Another loved one is literally on the other side of the world. This is tough. There is nothing that prepares you for this.

I do know that whatever I do, I can channel my energy toward something positive. To offer support for my family, and to offer support in the fight against cancer.

When my sister was diagnosed late in life with Type 1 Diabetes and had many medical complications. There was little I could do from across the country to support her. By joining Team Diabetes I felt like I could take concrete action in a way that showed my caring.

Will you join me in doing the same for Cancer? I would like to embark on a social media campaign in support of / with a cancer foundation as well as Facing Cancer Together. It’s time to put that growing Klout score to use! 😉

FacingCancer.ca

This idea is just in the very infant stages, in fact it’s more like the beginning of a seed that requires planting, watering, light and fertilizing. If you have ideas, I’d be thrilled to discuss working with you to make them happen!

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